What is ovarian stimulation?

Once you’ve made the decision to embark on the journey of motherhood you might be concerned about the different procedures it entails. To remain calm you need to gather as much information about the different aspects such as the symptoms, procedures etc. Do you want to know more about ovarian stimulation?

What is ovulation?

The ovulation process in women is part of the menstrual cycle and it starts with the period and ends around 14 days later. During this process, only one egg will mature and be fertilised. A woman’s ovarian reserve is the number of eggs that they have at a specific time and it determines their fertility.

What is ovarian stimulation?

It’s a technique that increases the number of eggs in women who are undergoing assisted reproduction methods such as artificial insemination or in vitro fertilisation using their own eggs. It’s also used for freezing eggs or egg donation.

It consists of administering hormones, which have been carefully controlled and tailored, through injections in order to allow the maximum number of eggs to mature throughout the cycle.

In the case of in vitro fertilisation, around 6 to 15 mature eggs can be extracted, but it must be done before the woman spontaneously ovulates. On the other hand, artificial insemination requires less stimulation since the aim is to obtain one or two eggs.

What is the treatment like?

The treatment is as follows:

  • Egg maturation: hormone treatment to ensure that one or more eggs mature.
  • Ovulation: hormone treatment to allow ovulation and the natural cycle to be controlled externally.

During these treatments there will be a number of clinical tests performed in order to determine its effectiveness.

 

Does it have side effects?

Hormonal treatments are usually risk-free for women but they do tend to have some side effects resembling the menstrual period. Some of the most common symptoms are abdominal swelling (not weight gain), breast tenderness, pressure in the ovaries, general malaise or dizziness.

Some things that can happen despite all of the medical check-ups and testing done are:

  • Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS): the follicles produced are larger than normal.
  • The chance of a multiple birth is increased.

By the next day most women can go about their normal daily activities. The symptoms decrease after the egg retrieval.

It’s natural to be stressed at the beginning of the hormonal treatment. Having a healthy lifestyle and doing low impact sports (such as swimming, Pilates or walking) is beneficial in this process. There are also natural treatments that can help but these should be used under medical advice.

It’s natural to be stressed at the beginning of the hormonal treatment. Having a healthy lifestyle and doing low impact sports (such as swimming, pilates or walking) is beneficial in this process. There are also natural treatments that can help but these should be used under medical advice.

Remember if you have any questions all you have to do is contact us.

How do you handle awkward questions?

When you make the decision to become lesbian mothers it might scare you to think about how the people closest to you (family, friends, co-workers) might react. Some people still think that the best way to raise a child is in what they consider a traditional family, which is one composed of a heterosexual couple with a mum and a dad. This is a common misconception some people have.  Maybe you are the first same-sex couple they meet that have decided to have a child together. If this is the case you can fight ignorance with information.

 

Many other lesbian couples have gone through this. These are some of the most frequently asked questions you might have to deal with.  Some of these might sound interesting but others will just be uncomfortable to answer. Just remember to face them with love, humour and most of all information.

 

Who is the father? and, do you know anything about him?

Sperm donation is anonymous is Spain; therefore, we don’t know who’s the father. Neither the children nor the biological father have any contact and of course, he also has no legal rights over these children. Donors go through very thorough physical and psychological tests.

Which of you is the biological mother?

When it comes to being a mum there is no first or second place! We are both his mum.

Don’t you think your child will miss on having a father figure in his life?

Like most couples, we try to teach our children important values such as tolerance, respect, and equality. We give them the opportunity to be exposed to different activities and it’s up to them to choose which one they prefer.

Our son will always have male figures in his life with our families and friends.

Can lesbians be good mums?

Studies confirm that there is no difference in development amongst children raised by heterosexual couples or homosexual couples.  Children even tend to be more open-minded.

The parent’s sexual orientation has not been proven to influence the child’s orientation.

Who’s the mum and who’s the dad?

We are both their mother. We love them and share the same rights and responsibilities in the upbringing of our children.

How will they tell you apart?

This resolves itself very naturally. In our case we decided that he should call us “ama” and “mama”, but other times its mama-mami. With time they will identify and tell you apart without trouble. When you are from different nationalities or you speak another language it’s even easier: ama, mama, mum, and mamá…

Don’t you think that having two mums might make your child feel different?

The children raised by homosexual or lesbian couples are as happy and comfortable with themselves as the ones raised by heterosexual couples. There is no difference in the way they choose activities, interests, or even friendships and later in life their career or way of life.

Lesbian mums raise millions of children and nowadays there are more and more diverse families. Every child is different and some might be okay with it and others might have a hard time because they feel different (due to this or for any other reason). What matters is that they are honest about it.

Do you think someone might be mean to them because he has two lesbian mums?

Every mum’s main concern is that someone might be mean to their child. This could be for any reason not just because they have lesbian mums. It’s important that our children talk to us and tell us about these experiences and also that the school is aware and educate the children on family diversity.

Can you both register your child as your own?

Lesbian couples have to be legally married in order to register their children. We must also produce a document that states that we have used assisted reproductive technology.

The registry certificates now read parent A and parent B however, we still have a long road ahead in order to standardise most forms.

You are happy as a couple and now you want to start your own family so don’t let ignorance and lack of education get in the way of that. Always answer with love, information and most of all humour!

The 5 most frequently asked questions about sperm donation

Some of the most common questions we receive are about sperm donation. Can we pick our donor? Will the baby look like us? Where can you find a donor? Some of these questions are answered by the Spanish law 14 of 2006, which states that all gamete donations (sperm and eggs) are anonymous. Do you want to know more?

1. Can we pick the donor?

Sperm donation is completely anonymous. Which means that mothers can’t choose any of the baby’s traits. However, this also means that the children can’t meet their biological father and he also doesn’t have any legal rights over the children. The donor will not have any information on the women who decide to use his sperm.

Due to its anonymous nature, the donation can’t be done with a family member or friend’s sperm.

2.Where can we find a donor?

The sperm donation process is very simple. The man will go to an assisted reproduction centre and there he will undergo some testing in order to determine his eligibility. If his tests are satisfactory the entire donation process takes around 3 to 9 months in total. It consists of going to the centre every week to deposit a sample.

The donor must collect the sample in a sterile container every time. The sample must be collected after a period of 3 to 5 days of abstinence from masturbating (in order to guarantee the quality of the sperm).

Throughout this process the centre will conduct blood tests as many times as they deem necessary.

All the sperm samples are frozen and kept in a sperm bank.  Most assisted reproduction centres have their own sperm bank. Liquid nitrogen is used to keep the samples frozen safeguarding their original functional and morphological characteristics.

With IVF and other similar techniques, a woman can only have a maximum of three pre-embryos transferred every cycle.

3.Who can be a sperm donor?

Spanish law requires that the following criteria be met:

  • Must be between 18 to 35 years old.
  • Must go of their own volition and be aware of what the donation entails.
  • Be free of any infectious disease that might be transferable to offspring such as, HIV, syphilis, or hepatitis B or C.
  • Be free of any genetic, hereditary or infectious disease that might be transferable to offspring.
  • Must be in good mental and physical health. The donor will undergo phenotype and psychological testing, as well as any other clinical tests that are required.
  • Must have an excellent sperm quality.
  • The donor must not have more than 6 children in the country in order to avoid kinship (blood relationships).

If the man doesn’t fulfil all these criteria he won’t be considered for donation in any clinic in Spain.

The sperm must be able to survive the freezing process because all samples are frozen for at least 6 months. This is the minimum amount of time in order to determine the presence of a sexually transmitted disease in the sample.

4. Is sperm donation a business?

The donations are by nature altruistic and never for profit. The monetary compensation given is for any disruption in the life of the donor in regards to commute and work costs that might have occurred due to the donation process.

5. Will the baby look like us?

You can’t choose your sperm or egg donor in Spain. You also can’t choose specific physical traits that you might like. The clinic will choose and assign you a donor that has the closest physical appearance to you both.

They take into account the physical characteristics (race, skin colour, eyes, hair, etc.) and clinical characteristics (blood type, RH factor).

If the patient has uncommon physical characteristics and a donor can’t be matched with them the clinic can get samples from a foreign sperm bank.

Do you have more questions? Contact us and we’ll get in touch as soon as possible.

Barcelona, a hub for assisted reproduction techniques

During the annual meeting of the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology (EHRE) held in Barcelona from the 1st to the 4th of July more than 12.000 experts from 130 countries discussed the latest innovations in reproductive medicine.

Reproductive medicine is taking leaps and bounds in innovation and the main points discussed at this gathering were unexplained infertility and how to preserve fertility overall. They also tackled topics like how to prevent genetic diseases, failed implantations and premature depleted ovarian reserve.

Catalonia’s success rates for assisted reproduction techniques are amongst the highest, this is due to their use of advanced technology.

Half the women who undergo an assisted reproduction treatment in Catalonia are foreign.

In Catalonia more than 17.000 assisted reproduction treatments are performed every year and more than half the women (53%) are foreign. This number grows every year.   A lot of the patients are French due to their country’s laws and their proximity to Spain.

Spanish law allows assisted reproduction techniques that aren’t approved in other countries such as the shared motherhood method (ROPA) for female couples.

Do you want to start a family and you’d like to do it in Barcelona?

Here at Lesmaternity we can help you throughout the process:

  • Counselling: We take you through all the different fertility treatments available and how to choose the right one for you.
  • Services: Management of all your medical appointments and treatment schedules. We can also help with travel and lodging.
  • Follow up: We keep in touch during and after your pregnancy.

Contact us with all your questions so we can discuss them.

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Fertility in lesbian couples. How to decide which one will be the implanted mother?

Perhaps you both want to experience motherhood and be biologically involved in the process.

You might also want some advice on who’s having the baby or you may be looking for the best chance of becoming pregnant.

In both cases, fertility testing can be a solution for lesbian couples.

The fertile life

The most fertile window begins at around 20 years old, although ovulation has begun at about 14 years old.

At 30, female fertility starts declining.

First, it does so slowly, and by 36, the process accelerates considerably. So by the time you decide to have children, realise you can afford them, discussed it in depth with your partner and you’re both ready, it may already be too late for your biological clock. That fertile window might have closed.

Not all women are built the same, so if you are shocked by the statistics, keep on reading.

Here are some fertility factors for lesbian couples!

 

Fertility indicators

Ovarian reserve

Since before we are born, we are sexual beings.

In the case of women, we come into the world with a number of oocytes, which we can use during our lifetime. These are the ones that allow us to become pregnant, but they are available in a limited capacity, and we will never be able to produce new oocytes.

Menstruation is proof of how our body is prepared for pregnancy. Regardless of menstruation, contraceptive use or pregnancies, the number of oocytes will decrease over time.

Aging can damage the genetic material of your eggs. It’s a natural process, but if you want to stop the rate at which this happens, you can do a lot of things! You can stop smoking and drinking alcohol and start having better stress management techniques. We suggest you try this sometime.

We are sure you’ll notice it in your physical and mental health too!

 

The state of the uterus

The following fertility tests can be useful for lesbian couples in determining the morphology of their uterus and ovaries: transvaginal ultrasound, hysteroscopy, and endometrial biopsy.

Having a pregnancy plan is important in order to prevent miscarriages or difficulties in embryo implantation due to changes in the uterus. Testing is only one part in achieving a successful pregnancy.

 

The state of the fallopian tubes

Project baby is already underway, so it is important to consider that the fallopian tubes are another reference for fertility in lesbian couples. In fact, it is the first thing that is studied when pregnancy attempts are unsuccessful in heterosexual couples.

Appendicitis, peritonitis or varying levels of endometriosis may have affected the fallopian tubes. The recommended course of treatment is three natural or artificial inseminations before proceeding with a hysterosalpingogram.

This test uses x-rays to assess the level of permeability of the fallopian tubes and uterus. It can be somewhat uncomfortable since it consists of using a speculum in the vagina to clean it, and inserting a tube through it.

 

Now that you know about the fertility tests for lesbian couples, shall we start Project Baby? 

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What you need to know to become a lesbian mother

The decision has been made and you’re sure of it! You’re going to be lesbian mums together, but where do you start? Where do you go first? What methods are there?

We know you are full of questions and in this post we’re going to solve them all. We’re here for you!

 

Doctor’s visit

Now that you have made the decision to become a lesbian mother you should start by visiting a medical centre.

During this visit, you will undergo general health tests to measure your overall fitness. They will also test different fertility indicators, paying close attention to the ovarian reserve, which is very important to this process.

To ensure the quality of the oocytes, egg freezing is becoming more and more popular. This procedure guarantees that, regardless of the age at which you decide to get fertility treatments, the oocytes will be good quality.

 

Which method should you choose to become a lesbian mother?

Now that you know your health and fitness you have to decide which treatment or method to use to become a mom.

 

Traditional method

The traditional method of having sex with a man is one of the options for becoming a mother. However, it does not ensure effectiveness and is not ideal for lesbians.

 

Artificial insemination

This involves placing the fertile spermatozoa in the uterus at the time of ovulation. The success rate is between 15% and 30%, which is difficult, but not impossible.

 

In vitro fertilization

In this method the eggs are extracted from one of the mothers; they are fertilised in a laboratory and then put back into the mother’s uterus. It is complex, but it has a 60% success rate.

This option is the one most likely to succeed.

 

Reception of Oocytes from the Partner (ROPA)

The ROPA method is the same as in vitro fertilization, but fertilised eggs are introduced into the uterus of the other mother.

Using this method both of you will actively participate in the process of becoming biological mothers: one as a genetic mother and the other as a pregnant mother.

The success rate is 60%, and it gives you both the chance of being involved in the process.

It is certainly the best option to become a lesbian mother with your partner.

 

Legal advice

The legal aspects are also an important part of becoming a lesbian mother. By law, the donation of eggs and sperm is anonymous.

Since 2005, Spanish legislation has allowed gay marriage; this provides lesbians with the same equal rights as heterosexual couples in matters such as assisted reproduction.

Under law 14/2006 of May 26, all women of legal age, under free consent, may undergo an assisted reproduction technique regardless of their marital status or sexual orientation.

This law was amended to recognise that both mothers are the parents of a child born through assisted reproduction techniques, regardless of the marital status of the couple.

However, in the ROPA method, the couple’s situation is important. Since it is not an egg donation, but the use of your partner’s embryos.

The legislation clearly states that these can only be provided “by the woman or spouse”, and therefore you must be married.

This is not the case with other assisted reproduction techniques. However, the ROPA method carries a higher emotional burden for lesbian mothers than other procedures.

If you have any questions you can contact us or go to an LGBTI association to receive all the legal information on this subject.

 

What is your decision?

We know that there are many decisions to make, but the most important one has already been made: you want to be mums.

You should choose a method depending on your marital status, but remember that the most important thing is mutual support.

Once you have considered both your medical and relationship status, the next step is to choose which one of you will be the pregnant mother and which will be a genetic mother, or both, if you choose the ROPA Method.

Together you will begin one of the most beautiful journeys. It’s time; you’re ready.

How did you start? Tell us your experience!

Testimonial by Laura and Raquel, lesbian mums using the ROPA Method

Laura and Raquel’s story of their journey is full of optimism and positivity that can help encourage other couples to take the plunge into becoming lesbian mothers.

This process is never easy, but we have seen that the ROPA method has the advantage of using the highest quality eggs.

We would love to help you make your dreams come true. Just like ours came true.

Here is their story and also a beautiful photograph that they sent.

Testimonial by Laura and Raquel.

Hi, we are Laura and Raquel.

After years of enjoying each other’s company, we decided we wanted to start a family and share our love with a baby.

Being two girls the process itself is not as romantic as the original idea.

Since I’m a very positive person I was convinced that we would be successful on the first try, but then we got some devastating news.

Some years ago I had been an egg donor, and now at 38 years old, my anti-mullerian hormone level (AMH) was low. This indicates that either I have few or low-quality follicles.

Despite this, we decided to go ahead with a round of IVF, but it was unsuccessful.

After this disappointment, we weren’t so positive anymore. We decided to go in a different direction, so we contacted LESMATERNITY.

They recommended the clinic that they work with and we really liked the one-on-one treatment that they provide for homosexual couples. They are very detail oriented and adapt to what works for your family. It saved us a lot of headaches and mistakes like which medication to take, and when to take it in order to get the sperm ready.
We decided to give my eggs another try to see if even with the low anti-mullerian hormone it could work, but it was a no-go. So, we cancelled that round since it was just going to hurt our chances.
Then, they recommended that we try the ROPA method and we thought it was such a romantic notion of being able to share this maternity journey together.

Now we were both involved, one was going to knead the dough and the other was going to bake it.
After two failed attempts, we were revitalised. Now we had to wait.

The day we took the test it all started in the bathroom, we looked at it for what seemed like forever until the little screen read “pregnant”.

We couldn’t believe it! The stick was still trying to calculate how far along.

It seemed like maybe this time it was true!

While hugging and crying, we had every thought you can think of go through our heads, such as, the test was wrong and that it was just playing a prank on us, and that in a couple of weeks it would be negative. Our minds were racing.

Slowly we realised that it was true, that the test was right and we were beyond happy.

It was a perfect pregnancy! On the 40th week, this little baby arrived and he’s stolen our hearts.

It was an amazing experience, and we recommend it. Does it change your life? Yes. It’s a new stage in our lives, and now all the problems that we had in the beginning seem so far away. Every time I see his smile I know it was worth it!

Stay positive girls!

 

Laura, Raquel and Quim

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Why is egg freezing important if you’re a lesbian?

There have been a lot of rumours about egg freezing in recent years. Even though it’s becoming more and more popular, you may not fully understand it or you might need more information in order to wrap your head around it.

When is the best time to do it? Why is it so important?

We’ll clear up all your doubts.

 

What is egg freezing?

It is a process by which a woman’s oocytes are frozen when she is most fertile so that her eggs are more viable for a later pregnancy.

Therefore fertility is preserved since you can use them whenever you want. You can start the gestation process at any time knowing that there is a greater chance of success.

 

Why is egg freezing done?

Each woman is born with all the eggs she will have during her lifetime, approximately one million. Over the years, these oocytes are lost naturally little by little.

By freezing the eggs, a number of oocytes can be isolated and preserved which can then be used later. These will have the same quality that they had at the time of their extraction.

You can retrieve and use your eggs at any time, whenever is most convenient to you and due to this preservation method they will be exactly the same as when they were extracted.

You can be mothers when you decide!

 

How is it done?

The freezing system is based on vitrification: cooling the cells so fast that it prevents the formation of crystals. This method ensures a 90% egg survival rate.

According to Spanish law, frozen eggs can be used until the woman reaches the age of 50.

 

When is the best time to freeze your eggs?

The best window to freeze your eggs is between the ages of 20 and 35 since this is considered the best quality ovarian reserve. From 35 onwards everything suddenly changes because according to gynaecologists, at that age, 90% of the oocytes have been lost.

Today, 65% of the women who are freezing their eggs are between 35 and 39 years old, an age at which they have already started to experience a natural decline in the quality of their oocytes.

The chances that a woman will be able to give birth after the age of 38 are minimal. This is due to the fact that chronological age does not usually coincide with biological age.

That’s why we encourage you to do it as soon as possible.

 

Why should you freeze your eggs?

You never know what the future holds.

You could be at a stage in your life where you reject the notion of motherhood altogether. However, later you realise that you do want to become a mother, but have too many problems achieving it.

That is why egg freezing is a very successful technique.

We need to be in excellent health at the time of extraction, it’s important that you don’t delay this decision and go through with it as soon as possible.

In addition, certain medical treatments can cause irreversible damage to the eggs. By freezing them, we secure our chances of becoming mothers once we have overcome the disease.

 

What does egg freezing have to do with my sexual orientation?

Egg freezing indirectly affects you as a lesbian.

Of course, it is every woman’s decision regardless of her sexual orientation, but it is safe to say that lesbian women change partners more often. So, if your decision is to be a mother, make it happen. It doesn’t matter if it’s today or tomorrow. You’ll decide if you’ll be a single lesbian mother or if you will have a loving partner to share your motherhood with.

Freeze your eggs today so you can have your baby at the right time.

The quality of your eggs will play a huge part in increasing your chances of a successful pregnancy later when you decide to go ahead with an assisted reproduction procedure.

Your dreams of becoming a lesbian mum are closer due to egg freezing.

 

Are your eggs ready? What do you think of this process?

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Ovarian reserve: what we need to know about our eggs to become lesbian mothers

The ovarian reserve is considered as the number of eggs that a woman has at any given time, which in turn determines her level of fertility.

If your ovarian reserve is high you are much more likely to become pregnant through gestational methods.

Do you have any questions? We will answer them here.

 

Let’s start at the beginning

Each woman is born with a specific number of oocytes, close to one million, which is approximately halved at puberty.

In each menstrual cycle, only 400 to 500 oocytes reach ovulation and the rest are lost along the way.

The period of time in which a woman is most fertile (when there are good quality and quantity of oocytes) is between the ages of 16 and 30. From a physiological point of view, this is the ideal time to become a mum.

From 35 onwards pregnancy becomes more complicated as your ovarian reserve decreases eventually exhausting itself around 40 in menopause.

Some factors that can affect ovarian reserve are cancer treatments, obesity, environmental pollution, exposure to pesticides and toxins, stress and an unhealthy lifestyle.

 

What should we do to improve our ovarian reserve?

Even though our ovarian reserve deteriorates with age, specialists advise us that before becoming pregnant we:

  • lead a healthy life,
  • play sports
  • maintain a balanced nutrition.

We have to prepare ourselves, not only with fertilization methods, but also with good habits in order to become lesbian mothers.

Everything we do affects our bodies and we want our eggs to be in good shape to start an assisted reproduction method with our partner.

In order to increase your chances of becoming pregnant, it’s recommended that the one with the best ovarian reserve be the one who provides the egg in the ROPA method.

 

How do we measure ovarian reserve?

In order to measure the ovarian reserve women must undergo a hormonal profile:

*FSH: follicle stimulating hormone

A sex hormone that regulates the menstrual cycle, it’s released by the pituitary gland to stimulate ovarian development.

*AMH: anti-mullerian hormone

The ovary releases it where the egg develops.

*E2: estradiol

As the follicles develop, the release of estradiol increases, so by measuring this hormone we can assess the ovarian reserve.

*AFC: Antral follicles count

This test involves a transvaginal ultrasound where the accumulation of liquid in the inner cavity is measured. This gives us an approximate idea of a woman’s ovarian reserve.

 

Why is it important to measure the ovarian reserve?

Knowing the evolution of the ovarian reserve is fundamental in determining a woman’s reproductive potential.  

This lets us know in what way you will respond to ovarian stimulation treatments.

And if your eggs are great, why not help other moms-to-be? Have you heard of egg donation?

Don’t waste any more time. Shall we begin?

Testimonial by Laura and M. José

Laura and M. Jose are two lesbian mothers that used the ROPA Method.

Their dream of having a baby has come true. This is a feeling we are very familiar with and you could too.

They’ve sent us a family photo. Don’t they look ecstatic?

It’s such an amazing feeling for us to see your happy faces…

Here is their story. It’s very emotional.

 

Testimonial by two lesbian mums: Laura and M. Jose

 

I can’t believe how time flies. A year ago we had no idea how we would make our dream (BECOMING MUMS!) come true.

It’s a difficult process that is made easier when you find the right people who share their own experiences and journey with you.

That’s exactly what happened to us.

By accident, we stumbled on a website, Lesmaternity, and we got in touch with them. We met with Bea who explained everything about the ROPA Method and she referred us to a clinic where they treated us like family. They were different than other businesses that are usually insensitive to couples like us.

We scheduled our first appointment for October 3rd. We were nervous.

But, we left the clinic with a very positive attitude. We were so pleased that we decided to choose Lesmaternity to make our dreams come true.

We started the treatment and, after a couple of anxious days, we had the egg transfer. We really hoped that everything had gone well.

The worst part is the wait. The days feel longer! It’s hard to not get your hopes up, but your mind immediately goes there.

The day arrives… and… you want to look. But you don’t.

All these feelings rush in, it’s indescribable!

Finally, we took a peek and… POSITIVE!

Our dream! We got it! We couldn’t believe it! Anything is possible!

Our little Maria was born this year on the 4th of July, and she’s the best part of our lives.

We will never forget that thanks to people like Bea and Lesmaternity we can finally hold our dream in our arms. All I can say is: THANK YOU!

We encourage other couples like us to never give up. Sooner or later THE DREAM COMES TRUE!